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You wouldn’t ask your barber for an oil change or your mechanic for a haircut.
So why, when it comes time to pick out the perfect gift for a lady, do so many men trust their own misguided instincts?
This year, do better — by going straight to the source.
To help you do just that, we asked 12 of the most creative women we know — writers, designers, at least one “Chief Knicker Officer” — for the gifts they want to see under the tree this year.
Plus: a pro tip from each on how to make the actual gifting part an occasion unto itself.
Vivianne Lapointe is the founder of Live FAST, an online magazine and community of multi-hyphenate movers and shakers. Her latest venture is a brand development agency, pepper, which focuses on talent procuration, digital storytelling and experiential marketing. You can book her studio here.
1. A one year membership to Switch: “The coolest subscription website I just discovered that gives unlimited access to luxury designer jewelry for $29/month (including iconic fashion houses like Hermes and Chanel).”
2. This tank bodysuit: “Else is my absolute favorite everyday lingerie line. Their fits are the most flattering. I’ve been wanting this one since it came out — it’s the perfect layering piece.”
3. This bar setup from West Elm: “Plus a bottle of grey goose and Castelvetrano olives. Keep things dirty.”
4. Tickets to Junior High’s upcoming fundraising gala in Bel Air: “A selfless gift to support a project I am invested in: Tax deductible, too!”
Pro tip: “I always love buying out-of-the-box presents that someone would never (or could never) buy for themselves. For example, find an expensive pair of Gucci stockings in your best friend’s favorite color, commission a visual artist to draw your colleague’s portrait or surprise your sibling who’s never been to Cali with a round-trip ticket. Spend some dollars on a pretty box, fill it with confetti and be sure to take some time to write a clever and heartfelt note in the card.”
Verena von Pfetten is the co-founder of Gossamer, a magazine for people who also smoke weed. Volume Two, the Paradise issue, is available now and would make a very, very good gift.
5. Ormaie: “Picking a perfume for someone is a bold move, but this new line of all-natural fragrances by a mother-son duo out of Paris is a reason to live dangerously. Even if you whiff it on the scent selection, the colorful, hand-carved mid-century modern bottle designs will more than make up for it. (I could genuinely loathe the inside of any one of these and still be thrilled to have them out on my dresser.)”
6. Ananda Hemp – Bliss: “CBD is as ubiquitous as a corner coffee shop, which might make it seem like a relatively uninteresting gift, but this new infused ‘intimate oil’ ups the ante. (Also, I just love a good euphemism.) Women have long been underserved in the cannabis market and this product in particular was formulated by a doctor whose speciality is in cannabinoid science, female bodied-patients and reproductive health. (I know that was a decidedly unsexy sentence for what should be a very sexy gift, but those are some serious bonafides.)”
Pro tip: “I’ve never loved a present more than the first time someone purchased a gift in my name through The Family Giving Tree. That organization is specific to Northern California, but it’s not hard to find one local to you — or just make a donation in your recipient’s name to a charity whose mission you know will resonate with them. It’s an easy way to do something good, and to make even the most practical of gifts feel extra meaningful.”
Mallyce Miller is the creative director of JOLYN, a swimwear brand of aquatic outlaws whose suits are inspired by active women who like to break the mold while breaking records.
7. Jolyn Holden Swimsuit: “I just signed up for Equinox and they have a pool, so I want to get back into swimming. JOLYN suits stay put with their fit and drawcord bottoms, and while I’m at it, I may as well match Equinox’s black-and-white marble branding.”
8. DJI Mavic 2 Drone: “Our photographer on our last surf shoot in Hawaii took some beautiful shots of our models in the ocean from above, and I want to be able to do that on future shoots. I also travel a lot by myself and like to do textile design, so I think it would be cool to take rad shots of the places I go and be able to make them into prints for swim and activewear.”
9. Vans for Opening Ceremony: “You can’t hate the classic checkered Vans. And you can’t hate Opening Ceremony’s edgy style. I love this collab specifically because it takes the ‘80s throwback checks and marries it with ditsy florals, making them slightly obnoxious, which is often my style.”
Pro tip: “The best wrapping I have ever received was from my ex who also shared a love for Virgil Abloh and Off-White’s branding. On the brown craft paper, he wrote ‘WRAPPING PAPER’ and had ‘ENVELOPE,’ ‘BOW’ where a bow should be and ‘GREETING’ as well. That kind of unexpected creative thought gave him more points than any gift he could have given.”
Peyton Ladt Sterns is the co-founder and CEO of Bashed, the millennial woman’s guide for all things entertaining.
10. Sleepy Jones x David Lynch Foundation Pajama Set: “I can never have enough pajama sets and no one does pajamas like Sleepy Jones. This holiday season, they’ve teamed up with one of my favorite organizations, The David Lynch Foundation, whose mission is to bring Transcendental Meditation to the world, in particular at-risk populations like our veterans who suffer from PTSD. 20% of the proceeds from the DLF capsule will go to the organization and their efforts.”
11. Cuyana Tall Structured Leather Tote (in blush): “Cuyana consistently delivers on effortlessly chic functionality. This tote is perfect for being on the go (which I am a lot!), and I’ll always think of my gift-giver when I use it. I also love that it can be personalized with a monogram.”
12. Guitar Lessons: “I’m a big fan of experiences. I’ve dabbled in teaching myself how to play the guitar for years but I’ve never been formally taught! Guitar lessons, or any type of activity that shows that you encourage your loved one’s creative side is like a two-for-one gift.”
Pro tip: “Gift opening can be a chaotic experience — especially if you have little ones in the room! For the really special gifts, I think it’s nice to take a private moment to exchange them. Also, a handwritten card to accompany it is always appreciated.”